How to Calm a Sexually Excited Dog: 11 Vet-Approved Methods

Dogs are typically not modest about many of their actions. If they have taken a shine to a couch pillow or one of your child's stuffed animals, you might want to stop this behavior, but that can be challenging.

Dominating inanimate objects can be a real problem for certain dogs. Fortunately, it is a manageable situation. If you have a dog with specific sexual behaviors that you'd rather mitigate, try these methods to help the issue.

The 11 Tips to Calm a Sexually Excited Dog

1. Make a Distracting Noise

Don't let the behavior continue. Clap your hands loudly, shout out a command—anything you can to get their attention. When you break their concentration, you should momentarily halt the behavior and then have time to push your dog's attention toward other activities.

Try not to yell, threaten, or spank your dog. However, make it clear that the behavior is unwanted.

2. Channel Your Dog’s Attention

Once you've broken their concentration, it's time to help them move on to something else. Toss them their favorite toy to chase or a bone to chew on. Do whatever it takes to get their energy focused on another self-play option.

3. Start Up Play Time

You might need to play along if you're having trouble distracting them. That means finding an activity the two of you can do together. Take this time to have a miniature training session or a game of tug of war.

Rearranging your dog's thought patterns will interrupt the current action and put their energy to good use.

4. Ignore It Completely

Some folks let their dogs do their business and stay out of it. If that sounds like something you prefer, remove yourself from the room so your dog has some private time.

Make sure they don't have any bedding, items, or belongings you don't want to be destroyed.

5. Remove Your Dog From the Area

If your dog wants to get frisky, they can do so in their own area. You can put them in their crate or kennel, let them go outside in the backyard, or separate them into another room. This way, they can do what they want, and you and your family can be distraction-free.

6. Get Your Dog Spayed or Neutered

Sometimes, decreasing sex hormones can eliminate this behavior. If you have yet to get your pet spayed or neutered, it's a really good avenue to consider. Spaying and neutering have their own series of health benefits, all of which can help your dog live a longer and healthier life.

Speak with a veterinarian about the pros and cons, and schedule an appointment. Most veterinarians recommend getting your pet spayed by 6 months to 1 year old, but this will vary from dog to dog.

7. Keep Up With Daily Exercise

Exercise is vital to keep your dog fit and provides an excellent way to expel extra energy. Some dogs require more exercise than others. If your dog gets sexually excited frequently, it may be due to a lack of channeled energy.

Get your dog out for a few brisk walks, make sure they're getting enough time to run around, and keep them engaged and mentally stimulated as much as possible. Proper exercise often decreases the frequency of sexual excitement.

8. Give Them a Treat to Divert Their Behavior

Your dog might be excited about the teddy bear in the corner until they see the mouthwatering treat in your hand. You can divert your dog's attention away from the stimulating behavior and satisfy their taste palate instead.

It's important to make your dog realize in these times that they are not being rewarded for their current behavior. That is why you'll need to snap them out of their recent activity and move their focus elsewhere first.

9. Speak to a Vet

Humping and similar behaviors are normal. Therefore, your dog displaying these behaviors isn’t anything to worry about. That said, if your dog doesn’t respond to any of these tips, it may be time to speak with a vet. Your dog may benefit from a thorough examination and assessment. They may need to be spayed/neutered to help prevent the frequency of these behaviors.

However, humping can be a sign of anxiety, and some dogs may do it to relieve stress. Sometimes, these behaviors can even become compulsive, which is another sign of anxiety. In this case, your pet will benefit from a veterinary behaviorist to tackle their issues in the best possible way.

These behaviors may also be a sign of skin allergies or UTIs. This is rare, though, as humping isn’t a typical sign of any illness. Still, it is possible, so it’s always best to get your dog checked out if these behaviors are out of the norm.

10. Separate Different Sexes

Male and female dogs may react when a female is in heat. Your dog will know before you do if another dog is in heat, as they can smell pheromones that humans cannot. Therefore, if your male dog is suddenly acting sexually excited, you may need to separate the males from the females. You don’t want an accidental pregnancy, and their behaviors may diminish once they are separated.

Of course, males can smell an in-heat female from a distance. Therefore, if you only separate them with a door, your male dog may continue to display sexually excited behaviors. We recommend separating the dogs by multiple rooms or a separate home temporarily if you’re able to.

11. Clean Well

If your dog is suddenly experiencing a surge in sexually stimulating behaviors, we recommend cleaning your home well. Dogs may react to pheromones or other scents on the surfaces. You can’t smell these, so it is impossible to know if this is the case or not.

Therefore, consider deep-cleaning the areas that your dog seems to be most excited about. This can help reduce the pheromones in that area.

Why Do Dogs Get Sexually Excited?

Sexual excitement in dogs can stem from a variety of factors, but it's usually because they aren't being stimulated enough in their daily lives. It can also spawn from sudden excitement or stress they can't articulate.

When dogs encounter these situations, they self-soothe by masturbating, or mounting objects. While it can be a little embarrassing to us, this is quite natural for them.

Don’t Negatively Scold Your Dog

If your dog is performing this action a lot, you will want to make them aware that the behavior is unwanted without overdoing it. You should never punish, spank, or use negative reinforcement tactics to correct the situation.

Regardless of how annoying or embarrassing it might be to you, this is a natural process for your dog and not one that they should be ashamed of. So, you should not try to eliminate the behavior entirely, but it's true that there is a time and a place for everything. If you need to excuse your dog or put them in a separate room until they can calm down, those are good solutions that you can implement over harsh discipline. Disciplining in this manner can lead to fearful reactions, poor behaviors, and destructiveness.

Get Your Dog a Friend

As humans, we can only fulfill so many of our dog's mental and physical needs. Sometimes, your dog could be downright bored and unstimulated in other ways, which can lead to excessive sexual excitement.

If you only have a single dog in the home, it might be time to invite another canine in that can match their energy. The two can spend time romping around to alleviate a lot of that extra tension.

You might notice fewer of these behaviors, and your dog will have a playmate. There are plenty of rescues, shelters, and breeders with amazing pups of every age. Just make sure to get the dogs fixed if they’re different sexes and you don’t want any unwanted puppies, or get two dogs of the same sex instead.

In Conclusion

A sexually excited dog can be a tad annoying sometimes. But there are reasons for everything, and your dog is simply following something instinctual. There are ways to curb the behavior or at least put it in its proper place.

Just remember to refrain from highly harsh punishments. Reacting out of frustration can cause fearfulness in your dog, resulting in worsening issues.

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