|Barked: Wed Mar 27, '13 5:58am PST |
|**Sorry it's so long - you don't really have to read it all. TL;DR: puppy has really bad SA and goes bonkers and I need advice.**
I didn't realize until Kaiser how good I had it with Tobi. The first time I left home without him, I took him and Dexter, put them in their crate (they shared one for a while when they were young because they were both small and liked to cuddle), turned on the radio, left, and neither of them made a peep. I had one noise complaint once, when one of them wasn't feeling well and was forced to soil the crate - I don't blame them for barking then, I would too if I were sitting in poop, bol. But anyway, Separation Anxiety was never a problem for them, and I never had to think about it much.
Kaiser has been a horrible nightmare in this regard. He gets upset when I go to the washroom and leave him in the living room (he's blocked off for now because he was revisiting there to pee). There's a 50/50 chance that he will get upset when I crate him to do dishes, take a shower, etc.. His anxiety seems lessened when he's crated.
Yesterday I did a trial run. It was meant to be the quick, one-minute type where you wait for them to be quiet, even just for 5 seconds, before you return. The radio was on. He was pretty tired. He had lots of toys, a tasty chew, and was cozy in his crate. I calmly, no fuss, grabbed my coat and left, and stood right outside the door.
He didn't just whine a little. He got louder and louder over time. He whined, then screamed, then started making this horrible shrieking bark. He clawed at the crate and threw himself against it. He outright panicked. It took 15 full minutes to get the 5 seconds of silence. I came back in, and I tried to ignore him for a few minutes, took off my shoes, did some mild busy work, etc. and waited to greet either dog until they were both calm (Tobi was uncrated, snoozing on the couch, and perfectly calm throughout all this).
Every time I left his sight he devolved into acting like I had left again. He abhorred being ignored. He started screaming and fighting the walls of his crate again, even when I was in plain sight. And boy, is he loud. I live in an apartment building and can't have him being as loud as he was... the neighbours across the hallway have a baby. After another 10 minutes of waiting for him to settle so I could greet him, he just wouldn't shut up, and I had to acknowledge him without succeeding in getting the point across.
SO, that was a resounding failure. I may have missed important details for getting help in my post, but that went so atrociously, I just don't know what to do. I can't be home 24/7, and he needs to learn to be alone, but either he is going to be a tough nut to crack or I don't understand preparing for SA as well as I thought. Either way, I need some advice. I can't even run to the corner store to get a drink or go out to get the mail, and I can't keep pawning him off on friends and relatives every time I have something I need to do.
Please ask if I missed some details that might help understand why he went so berserk, or just share your best advice. I don't want to give him up, but I won't always have dogsitters available, and he can't be making this much noise while I'm gone or I'm going to have complaints... or worse yet, get evicted. I'm stumped. Please help!
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