|Barked: Thu May 5, '11 3:59pm PST |
|You have definitely not lost it. I lost one of my heart dogs back in January and not a day has gone by since where I haven't struggled. She's always on my mind, even now. The pain you are feeling is normal and understandable. Milo was a big part of your life, and it's obvious that you loved him a lot. Don't ever let anyone make you think you're crazy for feeling the way you do. So many of us here have lost our heart dogs, too, and know that feeling this way is normal. Of course, that doesn't make it easier.
If you honestly feel as if you are ready for another dog, it might be a good idea to look. However, after losing Cinnamon, I felt as if I wanted another dog but realized when I found one on my local pounds website that was the same mix as her and looked a lot like her... that I was just trying to fill the hole she'd left behind. I realized then that emotionally, I was not ready for another dog. Some people aren't and some people are. Let your heart decide.
Through my grieving, I have found that talking to people online about what I'm going through has helped a lot. I, also, keep an online diary at a site called Pet-loss-matters. Which has helped me a lot. I would talk to a counsellor if I had insurance, but I don't, so I've found places online where I can get it all off my chest. I've found it to be really helpful. Just know that we all deal with grief in our own way and dealing with it at all is healthier than never getting past the denial stage. There are certain things I've been doing lately to help me cope. For example, I always sleep with Cinnamon's favorite toy under my pillow. I lit some candles for her this past Monday and plan to this coming up Monday, as well. I will also be making a photo album with nothing but pictures of her. Just, find something that helps you cope and don't be afraid to go with it.
I'm so sorry for your loss, may your sweet Milo RIP.
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