|Barked: Sat Dec 29, '12 2:48am PST |
|Dear DarlaMae, what a wonderful posting and can benefit from your words and the phrase from your counselor. So many are well meaning, but doesn't always come out as it should. In a fragile state, things are so emotional. Some cannot talk to those in grief, but in my thoughts, the need for those to care and to show that care and love are important and essential. When my dad passed suddenly at 56, one of the people I worked for said "I don't know what to say but I am sorry". It was not a long sentence, but it was something that I still remember as I had only started working there and didn't know the Partners well. So good to be surrounded with good comfort and support. This learned in therapy during a time of deep distress. I tend to isolate and at times, it was what I needed to do, for a while. Then I went to Hospice grief group for 13 months and found it to be an outlet that was safe. This too, is why I still go to Empty Leash, it is for all loss, and also to share and hopefully help another there. Had our Christmas gathering last week and a woman whose dog passed the weekend before said at the end of the evening, how being there had helped her. And she would come back. We are sending alot of love to Stacy. So cheering to have the tree and lights and decorations and Brendan's tree in his room. It is alot of effort to put all around.
One thing I learned in the therapy, is there are no right or wrong feelings. A small little sentence but it makes sense and have remembered for over 17 years now.
Glad that your sweet Nanny is there. Wonderful news of the cardio testing and no blockage. You are in a cardio class, good for body and soul, releasing endodorphines. Have to get back to the gym for that reason. Do you read at all, DarlaMae, I found some very good and helpful books. Knowing I was not alone, was very important, that I am not adrift. Sorry to use "I" continually just trying to relate to past experience and the help found in certain things that were of benefit, to me. Had a list of books that I was given in group and went to the bookstore and bought several of them. Then when Rob was in the Marine induction process, I met another woman there whose son was going as well. We started talking and I took the books to her house. Holding tightly to each other, we are not alone and we have those who care in our lives. You have been in our thoughts so much, sweet girl, and it is a blessing to have your message to read this morning. Love you so so very much.
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