|Barked: Wed Jan 9, '13 3:44pm PST |
|Love and affection are great, but only as a reward for the behavior you seek. Often we intensify the issue by rewarding the unwanted behavior/state of mind with affection. that can really throw a dog off! "You mean you WANT me to be freaked out all the time?!?!?"
What a pack animal, who is a dog, needs, is a pack leader who is calm, confident, clear, and consistant in creating expectations. I must disagree with the notion that leaving her alone will help. What she needs is leadership. If she feels that you are large and in charge, she will respond to you as her pack leader. She will gravitate to discipline, (NOT punishment!!!), and respond to confident leadership, not negotiation.
What causes insecurity in dogs is the lack of structure and direction; especially a more submissive dog, as she seems to be. If a submissive dog doesn't have clear leadership, they feel they must assume the dominant role and it's a frightening experience that won't improve by being passive and letting them come to you.
Punishment to a dog is not knowing what you expect, what makes you happy. Discipline is calmly, patiently, consistantly, clearly expressing your expectations. When she does something you would like her to continue doing. show her affection. When she's doing something you don't want-like feeling insecure-offer a clear redirection toward a different behavior or state of mind. (All of a positive nature, of course!)Time-wise, you have to take the time it takes, not the time you think it should take, or the time you've "alloted" to fix the problem. Just keep moving forward in your thoughts, and she will respond by moving forward with her body, mind, and soul!
Shower them with affection when they are calm, and they will chose to be calm rather than not. But this means thinking like a dog and becoming her pack leader! Your reward will be a dog's version of love and affection: Loyalty and devotion!
My Sammi is the biggest chicken on the planet, but she's not afraid to live life because she knows she has a pack leader who has her back.
God bless you for taking her in, and all the best to you!
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