|Barked: Tue Apr 16, '13 1:26pm PST |
|It's why I typically only deal with breeders on the phone. I am not justifying *anything*. ........being so curt and dismissive should never be when someone is trying to be thorough in selecting a puppy....but a lot of these breeders, due to the internet, get hammered by constant inquiries, many of them insincere or flaky. Some breeders get burned out, jaded, fed up, etc. Yes, they lose sight of the big picture, which would be that the buyers themselves may get frustrated enough to go to an easier/lesser source, such as a BYB or pet store, but some don't feel that obligation.
I think most start feeling that obligation, but it ends up getting so frustrating with so many inquiries demanding of their time that go nowhere. They tend to not trust long emails on principle.
So my advice to people is always a short, introductory email and schedule a phone call. I know quite a few breeders who don't even deal with the internet anymore it drives them so insane.
I don't defend breeders like this, but some of them are actually pretty decent to work with in the long haul, so scheduling a phone call or kennel visit is often the way to go.
I always recommend something along the following lines "I am very interested in purchasing a *** puppy and would be grateful for the opportunity to speak with you about your dogs and to tell you a bit about myself to determine if you think we'd be a good match. What would be a good time for me to call you?" If there is an online application, submit that at the same time.
A huge number of breeders I know take no one seriously without a phone call or visit and are generally mistrustful of long emails. They tend to signify either time wasters or high maintenance, which I had trouble understanding until I became an adoptions counselor. I have found long emails, a good 90% of the time, end up going nowhere. I of course am very polite until that common scenario plays out, but I am a lot more willing to keep people positive working in rescue as I do.
My Cocker mentor is very intolerant of people generally. It's extremely hard to get a dog from her. She is not on the internet simply because she is adamant that anyone who is clueless about high care needs, or those who view Cockers as substitute kids, often make bad owners of the breed. She just got tired, and didn't/doesn't think it's her responsibility to tend to every potential puppy buyer. I don't think she helps the big picture, but she also is top of the line when it comes to breeder returns and not letting her dogs fall into BYB hands. Her priority is doing right by her own dogs, and she employs full energies there. She tends not to trust people who "ramble on" (her words) or ask "stupid questions" (her words again, lol!)....makes her a bit of a hardnut, but she is beyond reproach when it comes to the dogs she produces.
I really don't know what the right answer is. I only know that phone calls lead you to far less experience with this sort of treatment and are always my advice.
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