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01/05/14 Deleting pals from our list

January 5th 2014 6:05 pm
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Hi pals,

Momma has started deleting some of our long time pals from our PAL LIST because they have become inactive. It's not that we don't love everyone who has ever PALED us, but when the diaries become inactive and the humans don't update us on what is going on, we have no ties that bind the friendship.

Recently momma did the New Years Extravaganza party on Puffy's page and since daddy has told momma that she can not download any thing off the internet after she somehow got her last computer messed us with virus and Malware, so in order for pals to know if they were the pups mentioned in the story, she had to list where some of them were from and even the breed that they were. Doing this takes a lot of work and clicking on icons of pals in our list proved to be time consuming so momma decided to delete those that are not active any longer in order to get the list more manageable.

It only makes sense to delete those who no longer play on Dogster and with this in mind, momma has been struggling with deleting Logan's page also. Logan has been at the Rainbow Bridge for many years now so obviously there will be no more updates on his page. Momma used his page as a means to heal her heart after he had passed away and she feels that has happened. Having Logan's diary was a means for momma to spill out her broken heart and she did. To this day, momma can read the sadness in the pages as she started on Dogster right after Logan had passed so it was more or less remembrances of things that happened in the past or her crying on the pages on how much she missed Logan.

Deleting his page will not mean he is forgotten, as that will never happen, but his page is more or less inactive so why leave it there?

Momma doesn't know what to do - any thoughts on the matter?

 
Barked by: Jenny 4/14/97-12/20/2010 (Dogster Member)

January 5th 2014 at 6:15 pm

Momma will never delete my page. She comes here to look at my pictures and remember.
Barked by: Emmy (Dogster Member)

January 5th 2014 at 6:39 pm

When your mommy sees Logan's page, it will help her remember the good times that they had together.
Barked by: Charlie (Dogster Member)

January 5th 2014 at 6:42 pm

Crikey .... Coco Rose ... PLEASE, PRETTY PLEASE, don't delete me. I like you! A LOT!!!!!!! BUT!!!!!
I think your Momma is very sensible and my Mum is going to do the same but she feels that maybe you shouldn't go so far as to delete Logan's page. I'm sure your Momma still likes to go and look at that page from time to time. I know my Mum checks Harri and Lucy's page out quite often even though she doesn't add any more to it. I think to delete the pages of all the angels of your friends is ok though as it does get too confusing trying to remember sooooooooooooo many mates and the ones that keep in touch from time to time are the ones you want to remember most. Mum and I are quite happy for you to delete Harri and Lucy from your list but PLEASE PLEASE not ME. My Mum's been going to delete all the angels from our friends list for sometime but didn't as she didn't want to upset anyone by doing so but it is soooooooo confusing. We will be watching the response you get from your diary entry to see how all the peoples feel about it before doing anything though. Oh I just thought of another way ... maybe just keep the active friends in your corrall and leave the other list as is. Oh crikey ... I don't know!!!!!
Barked by: Riley (Dogster Member)

January 5th 2014 at 8:27 pm

Hey Coco Rose,

I know just what you mean about a lot of friends not being active. We've thought about shortening our list but decided not to. You just never know when they may have an update, and we wouldn't want to miss it.

We also think that you should leave Logan's page. I know we have visited it several times.

Happy new year to you, Puff and your family.
Barked by: ✨ Whitley ✨ (Dogster Member)

January 5th 2014 at 9:15 pm

I got lotsa friends who are not real active, but sometimes people do come back, so I leave them in case they do. My momma wouldn't delete Logan's page if she were your momma. She still has Charlie's page and doesn't update it since he died, but sometimes she likes visiting it and looking at his pictures and seeing how kind of Catster pals were. But it are a decision dat are up to your momma - whatever she feels is best is best for her.
Barked by: ✨ Finley ✨ (Dogster Member)

January 5th 2014 at 11:01 pm

I agree with Whit-- ya never know when a pal might come back... Last year we heard from Geordie da scottie when she got attacked by some pit bulls. We were glad we could be some support for her family and got to welcome her lil brother Brawny.... they aren't writing right now, but who knows, they might come back.

Maybe you could put your most active pals in your corral? We've thought of doing that....

Although it's kinda funny--we always send out the free gifts to all our pals and we gots lots! And sometimes we hear from somebuddy who think they or their pup is forgotten and it makes them feel better to be remembered.

But whatever your Momma thinks is best for her is what she should do..
Barked by: PEEK A BOO (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 5:10 am

Please donĀ“t delete us ! we love you !!
Hugs
Peek a Boo and family
Barked by: Cathey U

January 6th 2014 at 5:42 am

Mommy's thinkin 'bout doing that with Cindy's page and eventually with Drover's page. But - she will save all of the diary entries to her computer and she has all the piccies there too.
Lookin at Cindy's page makes her want another Australian Kelpie but she knows that Cindy was not the norm for the breed.

She has deleted almost all the kitty cat pages, even though there are still 5 kitty cats 'round here. She just never goes to Catster anymore.
Barked by: Abby - Forever Loved (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 6:34 am

Mom still goes back and looks at my page often. She has thought about deleting it, but looking back on my pictures and reading the antics I did brings a smile to her face and tear in her eye. We support you whatever decision you feel is right for your pals pages.
Barked by: Wendy G

January 6th 2014 at 7:31 am

Hmmmm...i hab onwy eber deweted one pup pal an' dat wuz cuz him/hurs peeple wuz bein' obnoxshus, bud I unnerstan da desire tu cwean up yur page. I du nod kno' if my Momma wood eber be able tu dewete my page when I go tu da Bwidge. Jus' da uber day hur finawwy gedded wid ob my kitty brofur, Toby's, toys. Him went tu da Wainbow Bwidge 10 years go now! Hur jus' cood NOD du it afore!
Barked by: Amazing Grace (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 7:36 am

Miss Coco- Can see why Momma wants to do this, but we wouldn't at this point in time. Things change alot in life. Some of those pals could not be active due to things in life keeping them away right now.Bad economy,multiple jobs to make end meet.
Maybe caring for aging,elderly parents or health issues of their own. Just thinking out loud.

As for Logan that's a tough one. Gma can't see herself deleteing Angel Foxie or Angel Baby. When she thinks about them,wants to remember the big chunk of her life
they filled, she can visit there. Gma isn't very good about photo albums. The changes in puters,as well as crashes....she hasn't any pictures of some of her other pups. Here at dogster, she has a page that is theirs forever.(Or as long as dogster exists) Foxie has been gone 7 years in June. In her mind it could be yesterday. Foxie was the pup who gave Gma the will to keep fighting her health issues,day in and out.
She knows she wouldn't have made it without her. The pages are memorials to the lives they lived with this family.
How much they were loved and what wonderful companions they were for a woman who spends most of her time alone at home.

Just take your time,deciding what you want to do...Don't make a quick decision. Sometimes those explode in our face. The old saying, water under the bridge....well, somethings can never be undone...even when we changed our mind.
Barked by: Wrinkles (RIP) (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 9:00 am

Mommy does update my page much anymore either but she like go back and read my diary at times.....memories.
Barked by: Riley (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 9:31 am

I'd also like to add that we visit our Bridge pals pages often as well.

Pups like Abby and Rinky are very dear to our hearts.

We know that Cookie and Rosie are with their Bridge pals and that they share great adventures.
Barked by: Wrinkles (RIP) (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 10:30 am

You so sweet Riley... Thanks for 'membering me.
Barked by: Angel Petey- In Loving Memory (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 12:05 pm

I never knew you could delete pals, I thought once they were your pals they were always there. Mom comes on atleast once a wk but it's hard for her to post anything while she is at work.
Barked by: Fizzy (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 3:02 pm

I don't think your Momma should delete Logan's page. It's not hurting anyone by it being there, and she can go and look at it anytime she wants to!
Barked by: Scooter (Psst on the left) (Dogster Member)

January 6th 2014 at 11:17 pm

Of course it is entirely up to you, but we vote for not deleting pages. Sometimes as much as it pains Mom to look at pals that no longer are active or have crossed to the rainbow bridge she still remembers fondly of past conversations. Her mental memory of pals from all across the world.
Barked by: Amazing Grace (Dogster Member)

January 7th 2014 at 8:13 am

We agree Scooter. Just checking to see what everyone thought...Have a pawsome day! kisses,mazy
Barked by: Hershey (Dogster Member)

January 7th 2014 at 9:18 am

Sometimes my mommy wonders how she will feel about our pages when we go to the Bridge. She'll make that decision when the time comes. But we do understand how hard it is to sort through a pal list that's in the hundreds! We still like to visit some of our old furiends' pages who aren't active. We can even see our own comments in their diaries. Sometimes we drop off a rosie, and sometimes we acfurrily get a thank-you from someone who can't play anymore and thought they were furgotten! I think the best idea is to keep your active pals in your corral.
Barked by: Toto, CD, RN, CGC (Dogster Member)

January 9th 2014 at 7:17 pm

Coco, when Mom deleted all of us she found it too hard to put Lukie and Darrell and Lola back on. She did print their diaries though cuz sometimes she likes to read them when she is feeling sad or missing them.
Barked by: Coco Rose (Dogster Member)

January 9th 2014 at 9:48 pm

Thank you all for your comments. After careful consideration I went ahead and deleted Logan's page. Logan has been gone for almost 8 years and it was time to let him rest in peace. His diary was a very painful time for me and rehashing everything just induced additional sadness. Logan will always be in my heart and memory. I would like to keep Dogster/Catster as a happy place but there is lots of sadness and grief in many of the pages. With life there comes death at some point.

I probably would have kept Logan's pages on Dogster had they actually detailed his life but they didn't. His diary was composed AFTER he has passed away and the pages were not always happy because I was greiving so much. Logan will always be my soul mate and even now I am brought to tears thinking about him.

Every picture that was posted of Logan I still have either framed and hanging on my walls or on memory cards in which I can pull up at any given time. The only difference is that he no longer has a page here on Dogster. I thank everyone of you who befriended Logan and who helped me through the years, yes YEARS, of moving past his death. Time does heal the hurt but I hope the next time I have to go through another passing that it doesn't take 8 years, but if it does, I know that I have some really good Dogster pals that will help me through it, again.

I love you all!

PS - I'm not deleting any pals that have been more or less active but if I do, there is nothing saying that I can't re-pal them again - LOL I'm only trying to delete accounts that have not been active in years.

Marilynn - Logan's human mom

 

Coco Rose


 

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