Should I get a 3rd dog? PLEASE HELP
I have two beautiful pups. a 10 year old small shihtzu and a medium austie mix whos about 2 yrs old. We're moving with my fiance to a much bigger place. Not a 4 bedroom house mind you but a nice 2 bedroom 2 bathroom condo or house. Ive always wanted exactly 3 dogs. Ill be having room, dedication and good amount of money so I take care of my 2 dogs they have their own health plan. When I move I want to adopt/rescue another dog. But my fiance doesnt want to or more on the fact that hes not letting me. I pay for the bills to, I pay for their dog food and medical stuff. I know how to take care of them and my responsibilities. Shouldnt I be able to get one more dog? What should I say to convince him?
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Personally I wouldn't let a significant other "not let me" do something. Unless the house is only is their name and they are the only one paying for it. If there is no valid reason for them not to want another dog, then I would just do it. BUT.....
That solution isn't for everyone...I'm just direct with what I want. Most people lean towards the path of compromise. If so you could explain how much it means to you and what you've always wanted as a part of your life & family. I found that showing them pictures of dogs you like could ease them up a little after seeing the cute little faces enough times :P
I think if you're planning to get married and live together, you're going to have to sort this out on your own- I don't know if the previous poster is married, but learning how to negotiate and compromise on important decisions is essential over the long-term.
If you love your fiancee, you have to take his wishes into consideration- maybe he thinks you'll be stretched too thin with three dogs. Maybe he thinks it wouldn't be fair to your current dogs. Maybe he's not really a dog person and doesn't want to be overwhelmed with dogs, and their hair, smells, etc (after all, it's his house too, right?)
I can't suggest what to say without knowing why he objects to the idea. Just steamrolling him and doing whatever you want anyway is not a good start to a marriage...
Bruno CGC answered on 3/13/12. Helpful? / 1