I need your advice. I’ve been dating this guy and he says he loves me and wants a future with me, but he just doesn’t have time in his life for me right now. I’ve tried everything I can to fit into his life – giving him his space, trying to help him with anything he needs and treating him to nice things, but as soon as I want or need anything from him, he freaks out and pushes me out of his life again.
What’s the deal, GiGi? Am I as stupid as I feel?
Feeling pretty not so pretty,
Meg from Darien, CT
From the sounds of it, you’re doing a pretty good job of going after what you want. Sadly, it doesn’t matter unless that’s what he wants, too. Even us dogs know, if we want something, nothing is gonna keep us from jumping as high as we can and seeing how far we can stretch every last thread in our leashes to get our paws on it. Everyone deserves someone who goes into tailspins when they see you and just can’t wait until the next time they get to see you again!
If you read your letter to me out loud, you might be able to see why they compare human love to temporary insanity! You deserve to be chased, not left to play fetch with your own feelings. I think it’s time to cut this one loose, Meggers, and sniff out the treats that you’ve been missing while trying to dig up something that’s just not there.
Many sloppy smooches!