|Barked: Wed May 15, '13 3:46pm PST |
|Okay, I'm realizing my post is a bit confusing . . . sorry, my thought process is messy
Lenny, the problem with that is that I've used the interrupting technique before, and I've always tried my best to keep calm. Generally, I'm pretty good at maintaining a steady energy around animals of all sorts, be it a horse that's flipping out or my dogs. The only thing I see with this instance regarding the energy is that my little brothers weren't around, and their energy tends to be VERY crazy (heck, they make me nervous most of the time, and animals at 100% more sensitive than humans are!)
Some other things I've noticed about Pearl lately:
She's being more aggressive with Winnie. She would always try to take bones and/or treats from Winnie, and would kick her out of the dog bed, but it's becoming a little more serious. Her posturing and vocal qualities are MUCH more . . . mature? She's more serious about her threats. I always interrupt her, scold her, and give Winnie's bone or bed back, and Pearl usually respects that.
She's started lashing out at people. Mostly resource guarding. Again, I always interrupt the behavior and refocus her, but I'm feeling a little over my head with this one. When she first came to us, she was so scared and not with it, I didn't dare to do much serious training. She bit when she first came to us: fear. When someone handled her paws, when someone woke her up, when my littlest brother ran up to her and shouted, "You're so cute!" We worked through it. Now, she's not biting from fear, she's resource guarding, she's emboldened by her new, stable lifestyle.
Arg, sometimes I regret us getting her! She's not the dog I wanted: I wanted another blank slate. I can handle other people's problem dogs; I can give them suggestions and have fun working with their problems, but it's not something I want to deal with at home! But then I think, Pearl might be dead if we didn't take her. If I went back, if someone offered for me to do it all over again, I'd take Pearl again. She needed us.
But now I feel completely inadequate. I can work with big animals; I can make the horses get out of my way, I can get a stubborn one moving, I can work with Winnie; heck, I even worked with a messed up young Dobe once. But Pearl? She's completely unmotivated, completely illiterate in her own language, and so tiny that I'm afraid I'll hurt her.
Sorry, this ended up being a rant If things are confusing, please let me know, I do have a very messy way of thinking
Could this be a "coming-of-age" spurt? Her past put her behind in emotional growth: she's about three physically, but I'd put her at half that mentally. 1.5 is about when Winnie started some teenage behavior: is that what this is?
The fact that my friend could silence Pearl really hit my pride. I want so badly to be good at this, but I was afraid to do anything with Pearl because I have a history with her. I know some of what she's been through. And here's an almost-stranger to Pearl, someone who can hardly identify with her, and she gets her to stop . . . but then again, maybe it's because my friend didn't know all of Pearl's miserable past that she was able to work with her. Perhaps my knowledge of Pearl's former abuses is getting in the way of us moving forward?
To anyone who gets through all this and still can say something encouraging or offer any advice, thank you so much. I'm sorry to be such a rambling mess Any and all thoughts are appreciated.
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