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I know you keep sending Mom & Dad these signs, but you have to give them the time to accept the fact that it is OK to love another little one. It is a start to give a homeless baby a home (even if temporary).
Preshy knows you love her very much and believe me...there is plenty of love in your heart, although it will be a different love. I say God Bless you Roxanne for helping this little girl.
Good Morning Preshy and Mom......
You didn't waste any time Preshy in picking out one for your mommy to show some love to. Remember mom, she is smiling down at you right now. She wants to see you happy again and she did have a hand in picking out this little girl for you to foster. You don't have to make any long term decisions right away and if they pressure you to make them before you are ready, then let that be a sign that maybe someone else should adopt her. Enjoy her for now and give her all the love you have to give. She needs you and you need her right now.
I always hated it when mom would cry, so I thought overdosing her with little ones that needed her would be a good idea. I think I did a boo boo with the kitty, but that's ok. They'll have no problem finding him the perfect home soon. Joslin on the other hand was in such poor shape that I thought she would be a good fit. Maybe she still will be, but poor mom is so scared. I think she's going to call the local rescue and ask for advice too. Maybe they'll help mom place her if they decide they're not ready.
Preshy.... What is mom afraid of if she doesn't have to make a long term commitment right away? She knows how to take care of a little dog. She knows how to cuddle and show love. She did it all with you. It won't be exactly the same but she has enough love to spread around. Tell her not to give up too soon on herself. Fear can rob her of what she needs to heal too if she lets it. One step at a time, one day at a time, mom, but whatever you do, don't give in to fear. If it is not right, OK, but don't give in because of fear.
We love you and we want to see you happy again, but to get there you need to take the time you need to heal. That doesn't mean giving in to fear though. Try not to make hasty decisions at this time either. Think about them for awhile before you make your final decision. Usually you will make a better decision then.
I don't know what she's afraid of. Maybe she's afraid it's too soon and she's not ready. Maybe she's afraid it's dishonoring me by adopting too soon. Maybe she's afraid to love again. She said it's weird - she feels empathy for the little one and is willing to take care of her, but she doesn't feel any sort of attachment. Maybe that just comes with time.
Dad said mom had to wait at least a week to see how she feels then. If it hasn't changed, mom might contact some rescues and see if they could list her while she fosters for them.
Mom just couldn't do it. There were three other families who wanted to meet Joslin and she didn't feel right keeping that sweet puppy any longer when she wasn't sure it was the right thing or not. You should KNOW you want a dog...not wait and see. She actually feels good letting them call the other people who were so excited to meet her though. And of course my pawrents sent a big bag of dog food, dishes, and toys with her for the new home.
Preshy, you are doing the right things for your mom. Mom's take a little more time sometimes, We know you don't want her to be lonely and sad and cry so much but she feels the other way that she might be hurting your feelings or saying that she didn't love you as much, We all know that isn't so. My mom got Foxy roughly 3 weeks after I went to the Bridge. Mom cried so much that dad said it's up to you if you want to look at some new ones so they looked in the paper and found an ad. They went and checked out the guy and he was very nice and his place was clean and only had 2 females that he bread. Of course this precious little girl came snuggling up to mom and that's all it took. After 3 more weeks she was ready to come home with us. Pawrents have to do what is best for them (they think) Time heals everything and when your mom is ready she will let herself love again. I see my mom cry so much to his day! (even now while she writes this) I am surprised that mom is even writing in this group now after all this time. BUT I am glad she is. Human's hearts are funny little things, sometimes they can just go on beating like nothing ever happened, (how they do that I do not know) but the ones that truly love and cherish the memory of us loved ones being gone, have to let things happen in their own time. Your mom will be fine. She already has made some progress by not crying so much the other day at the shelter. One day she will wake up and know that she is ready for a new baby. Not to take your place to make her OWN place. That is what Foxy did to mom, she didn't take my place, because mom says no one could do that but she made her own place. She isn't the same as me, she has different ways of doing things which mom says is good. Give your mom a little more time she will be fine.
Thank goodness there is a wonderful place like this where we can all come and share our feelings rather they are happy feelings or sad feelings. I thank all of you for helping mom come out a little and at least write some of her feelings.
Thank you pals, I think mom is making a turn in her grieving over me. I owe all of that to yall.
Heavenly Hugs to all of my pals and to all of the mom's and dad's too.
Hi Preshy....... I know you wanted your mom to have a little furbaby to hug and hold now that you are at the bridge with us but it just was too soon for her. She has Maddy and Maddy will help her until she is ready to take in another when she is ready. She will be one day we all know that. Your mom has too much love to share to not take in more furbabies to give it to. She just needs a little more time. You have helped so much more than you realize. You have helped Foxy's mom to come out more and you have helped my mom to come out more and you are helping your mom all at the same time. Everyone has to take it at their own pace and you have really helped us all and we thank you for that. We also thank all the moms and dads that are here to encourage us when we need it the most. Hugs to all.
You guys are so sweet. Mom feels really good about her decision actually. She took Joslin in when she desperately needed a bath and some snuggles. She left the house with a big bag of food and toys and dishes and a positive attitude. She's a beautiful little baby and there are lots of families that can love her. I'm sure one day there will be a new furbaby that really needs my mom like I did. Someone a little more high needs. Then she'll know what to do.
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