|Barked: Fri Aug 10, '07 8:23am PST |
|Thanks for starting this thread. I'm coming up on 9 months since losing Annie and I still have moments of tremendous grief. It is a lot easier now than way back in the beginning when all I could do was cry. I recover within a shorter time now.
This is just a reminder to those who are new to this - It's a process. Give yourself time to grieve. Don't feel you need to respond to others right now. Take care of you, your family & your other pets. It will come when you're ready. Be kind to yourself. There are some wonderful poems & letters and memorials that people post in this group and on their pup's pages (I posted some in Annie's diary). Even if you can't read them now, sometime in the future you'll be able to and you'll find comfort.
In the early days of my loss, I developed a method to cope with those darkest moments. A Rainbow Bridge site has a Monday night candle ceremony that you do on your own. I participated in that and then when I was really weepy at night I'd light a candle and imagine it was Annie's spirit and it calmed me down. You'll find ways too.
It took me a long time to write Annie's story on her page. It took time to be emotionally read for that. It was really hard to display her photo with the wings as her main one but eventually I was able to handle that. Now I'm here to play too, but I'm not always in that frame of mind. So having a place like this is great. There are some really kind people participating in this group and I know we all find support needed to get us through the tough times and eventually to the playful times. And remember you don't always have to post things for the group to read, you can answer a person directly or pmail them.
So hugs to you all, and thanks for the support I have received. Have you seen Petey's poem for me?!!!!
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