|Barked: Wed Feb 9, '11 3:36pm PST |
|I strongly encourage being honest, especially if you want to maintain some sort of friendship with this person in the future. Making up stories is going to be hard to continue in the long run, and if they ever find out you lied . . . well, it's probably going to be a lot worse than just being honest to begin with. The problem is not going to go away, and is likely to be more difficult the longer you stall, so you should probably discuss it with her as soon as you feel ready.
It sounds like you've done some of your own research on breeding, which has led you to your current choice (which is a good one). Share with her what you know and what you've learned. Tell her you enjoy letting the dogs play together, but breeding just isn't something you are ready for. Tell her that when you discussed it the first time you didn't realize it was a serious discussion, and although you think the puppies would be cute, you really don't want to breed your dog.
If her dog is breeding quality, offer to help do research and find someone who does want to breed. Or if she really wants another puppy, offer to help her find a reputable breeder or rescue to work with.
Do not feel bad about saying "no." It's your dog, and since you own the female, you will be responsible for whelping and raising the litter (not to mention, most of the cost). That's a lot to ask of someone else, the other person is the one who should feel guilty about pressuring you into it. You don't have to put your dog's life and health at risk just to avoid offending someone. If she can't respect your decision, that's her problem.
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