|Barked: Mon Oct 15, '12 12:04pm PST |
|I am really on the fence with this situation and could use some advice!
I have a wonderful golden doodle, Cooper, who is 2 years old, very playful, not a leader but not a follower. He has been the love of my life for these past 2 years and is practically me and my boyfriend’s child. We thought it would be a great idea to get him a buddy, and searched out a terrier mix that we rescued on Saturday from the Dumb Friends League shelter. I trust this shelter and have volunteered for them and donated to them for years. They said this medium sized terrier, Charlie, had some protection issues regarding his food, but that he got along well with other dogs and was a happy guy. However, since bringing him home he has been territorial of me, not allowing Cooper to get close, is pushing Cooper out of his ‘spots’ by growling and kind of bullying him, and is not playing with Cooper like I had hoped. Cooper will try to initiate play with Charlie, but Charlie will only actively play if I begin a tug of war game with them both and then let them play without me. Thus, Cooper is acting very depressed and sad, which is the complete opposite of what I was hoping for!
I’m not sure if this is normal when bringing a new dog into the house, but my boyfriend and I are feeling like we have to defend and play extra with Cooper, as he is having these adverse feelings towards the new one. Don’t get me wrong, I like Charlie and think he is a sweet tempered dog and I realize it will take time to develop a relationship with each other. However, I am feeling so defensive over Cooper, it is making it difficult to give Charlie a chance. I feel horrible about thinking that we should return him to the shelter, but I cannot ignore the feelings my boyfriend and I are having and the things I am seeing occur between Charlie and Cooper. I have to defend and do what is best for Cooper as he is my long standing dog, however I know my responsibility to Charlie and do not want to take the poor guy back just when he thought he had found a home.
So, any advice is greatly appreciated. I am currently thinking I should take the dog back to the shelter, as it just doesn’t feel like the right fit. But then my heart wrenches, and I would be devastated to find out he hadn’t been adopted.
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