|Barked: Wed Nov 21, '12 8:33am PST |
|You have been given GREAT advice already. While my dog is not an official ESA, over the years, he might as well have been. He came to me at a point in my life when... Well, I wouldn't be here if it weren't for him. It was my drive to keep him having a happy, healthy, furever home that drove me to make myself better. And while I still have a vast number of mental health issues, and physical ones, he's always there. I've gone the med-route. If one didn't give me such severe headaches that I couldn't get out of bed, another would give me such severe mood swings, that it was worse to be on them, etc. Not to mention, of course, the cost. My dog is a consistent factor, that does the same things over and over when I need him to. If I need a nap because things aren't going good, I go curl up in bed and he comes and snuggles right up to me so I have something warm to hold onto until my fiance can be home to help. If I'm too moody, a walk with him does the trick. If I'm depressed and refuse to get out of bed, he'll come wiggling and shake the entire bed and lick me til I finally get up and out to spend time with him. If it wasn't for him, I wouldn't be here, and if it wasn't for all the things he does, every single day, without fail, I'm not sure that I would be moving forward as well as I am.
Nobody else can tell you what's best for you, nor what's best for your family. Nobody.
My fiance's mom has hit me with the 'get rid of the dog' crap too, or the 'you wouldn't be in this financial situation if you weren't on medical leave and had a job', or 'you guys should do this, this and that with your money'.. I seriously hate it when the family seems to think we have yet to grow up and are incapable of living our lives responsibly and to its fullest. And it irks me even more when they think they know better. Experience doesn't always mean they know better for ANOTHER person.
I wish you all the best in this situation, honey. I know how it feels. There should be some more awesome people to respond to this and give good advice too, or share experiences with you too, whether they have ESA's or SD's.
I would simply say something as simple and polite as, "With all do respect, I don't think you can tell us what is best for us, or me, and I'd like it if you respected that."
|my posts | my page | msg me | my family's posts | gift me | become pals|| [notify]|