|Barked: Mon May 7, '12 6:43pm PST |
|Baby, we're good!
Honestly, I think the "attacking PSD" people get defensive sometimes when there is no need to be. When I wrote my original reply, I'm not sure I even knew whether the OP's SD was a PSD or other type of SD. Actually, I probably did because I think she mentioned psychiatric hospitalization in her post, but it's not something I focus on at all. I focus on behavior, not a type of SD. If PSD behavior issues crop up more than other types of SDs, that's nothing of my doing. The type of SD is irrelevant to me. Just wanted to say that for the record.
Baby, you think that irresponsible SD users wouldn't post here. But, if we follow the rules according to your interpretation, this board would be an absolute haven for fakers. If nobody can challenge or disagree with anyone else, if anything goes, what will happen is people who don't need SDs will come here and take a challenge in their life that is not a disability and start asserting their need for a SD because of that challenge.
But according to the "rules," people are only allowed to be supportive of their "choice" to use a SD. So everyone pats that person on the back and says what a wonderful idea it is. So then that person thinks hey, yeah, it is a good idea and a dog that I can take with me everywhere would help me! Then everyone starts talking about "rights" and the ADA, and the original person says they've been to 10 doctors who won't say they aren't disabled. It's never because they...aren't disabled...it's because the doctors "aren't educated on what a SD can do for a person," so that person goes to an 11th doctor hoping for a signed note (typically that they have already written) that says they are disabled and need a SD. And everyone here agrees with that and encourages them on.
So finally they find a doctor who says they are disabled and can use a SD, so great! At that point there is no turning back. Within a week they are OTing a SDIT.
THIS HAPPENS. PEOPLE HERE THINK IT DOESN'T, BUT IT DOES. Heck, one person in a class I'm taking at a local community college did it after she saw me bringing my guide-in-training to the library.
I am certainly not saying that any particular person here is a faker (and I'm not being passive-agressive about that either; I really don't think anyone here is!). But I do want people to consider how this only patting each other on the back business weakens the SD community rather than strengthens it.
If we really want to help each other, we will be honest with each other. Encouragement when there should be criticism is not helpful at all, and neither is criticism when there should be encouragement. An earnest, honest question deserves nothing less than an earnest, honest response. If all you want to hear are positive replies, i.e. if your question isn't an honest question but just a way to elicit praise, don't ask the question.
And this was in no way directed at the OP, just a few things I have been thinking about for a while.
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