|Barked: Sat Jan 26, '13 3:06pm PST |
|It wasn't a guilt trip. My post responded that she could take in the dog, find a foster, pool family money and board. Several posts reflect that way. But any post that included "sorry, but this really IS on you," that was not wanted to be heard. But what is, is. And that's where you have to start. She is terrorizing herself with "can't, can't, can't," where you flip your perspective "well, darn it, I have to make this work some way...but how?" and then explore options....as I said, bring the dog in and attempt to make it work, pool family money and board (some here after me suggested emergency boarding discounts) or find a foster. There are options and the situation deserves the effort. Life has just sort of played to where you have to help, and that is the situation you are in and you work from there.
Again, keep it in perspective. Many people foster dogs with troubled behavior all the time. The dogs come around if everyone works together. This thought that it might always be this way, again, is the wrong perspective. These forums are chock full of people who have dealt with far worse. Behavior can always be changed, and if your dad has become a permanent equation, then it's time to be inspired by that. Not to bring further stress or burden to yourselves, but to the contrary a sense of control and the future's promise.
Edited by author Sat Jan 26, '13 3:10pm PST
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