|Barked: Mon Aug 13, '12 8:01am PST |
|I've been called everything from "selfish" to "hateful" for my views on having children.
I personally don't want them - for a number of reasons, but mainly because I can't see myself ever affording children (in the lifestyle I'd like to raise children), and I don't like the thought of having kids (as adults, or children). I feel it should be a personal choice whether to have kids or not. My family is fine with my decision. The most backlash I receive is from perfect strangers and "friends" who have children.
I am one of those people who care about their dog as if it were a kid. I don't mean that I treat the dog like a baby with clothing and diapers -- but I mean, I care about her diet, her grooming, her well-being. I'm beyond a "good pet owner". I'm called things like "crazy dog lady".
Still, I'm hesistant to admit things like "My dog is my kid" - especially in public, because of the outcry from angry parents who feel that a dog can never be compared to a human child. Sadly, I've even lost "friends" over this statement!
These "friends" with human children are quick to quip at my feelings with angry sentiments such as: "Dogs cannot speak", "You don't send a dog to college", "Dogs aren't the same as people", and (my favorite) "Until you have a child, you cannot know love" (Yes, this has actually been said to me.)
Dogs *aren't* the same as human children. I agree.
A dog is a dog -- but I like that about them. Anyone who thinks they can replace a human child with a dog will be disappointed if they're expecting a human child. In order to have a dog, you have to like dogs.
To me, dogs make the perfect "children". I am 26, well employed, in a great apartment, and in a great relationship -- but I still don't see myself ever being in a position where I'd be able to afford children. However, I am in a position where I can afford a dog (and I made damn sure that I was before getting a dog, unlike many of my "friends" who went and had kids without being able to support them.)
Dogs are expensive - but they are (often) not as expensive as human children. I get that. Personally, I like that. Does that lessen their "value" somehow? Some people are so money-driven. I cannot understand sentiments such as "You can't send your dog to college". No, I can't. So what? Many PEOPLE don't go to college. So what? My dog is still an investment -- and yet, my investment is seen as being "less than" in value than theirs.
Do I believe dogs are equivalent in value to people? You know, maybe I do. I do know that I love my dog, I care about her, and I'd do anything for her. I'm tired of being made to feel as if that attitude is "wrong". What is love???
Edited by author Mon Aug 13, '12 8:16am PST
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