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Does my dog hate me?

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Pistache

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Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 5:58am PST 
I have this crazy feeling my dog hates me. He never listens to me, he jumps on me all the time, he bites my hands or clothes all the time, he's even ran out the door as I leave (something he stopped doing about 3 months ago). He even started barking at me ...especially when I start getting ready to leave the house.

This morning was the wrost one yet. He used me as a trampoline (jumping on me, getting off then jumping again), he barked, growled, tried to rip my shirt, tried to eat my boots off my feet, tried to chew my pant legs as I was walking, he even jumped on my dresser and ran away with my glasses (something he never did).

As soon as I am home, he turns into a demon dog,won't listen to any commands from me, it takes my husband a few tries to get him to listen to anything. My husband said that during the day, Pistache does nothing to extremelly little that he shouldn't do. He listens to him, doesn't jump or bite.

My husband and I have no clue what to do, our other dog didn't act that way at all...it's all new to us.
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Chandler

Code name:- Farmcollie
 
 
Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 6:20am PST 
Honestly, my first impression is that your dog loves you...like a great big squeaky toy. However, you might want to consult a trainer/behaviorist to make sure this is lab/boxer high energy and not true aggressiveness.

Answering these questions might hekp us give you better answers:

How old is your dog?
What kinds of games do you play with him?
How much and what kind of exercise does he get every day?
What kind of training has he had, and how reliable is he with it?
What do you do when he starts misbehaving like this?

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Pistache

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Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 6:35am PST 
Here are the anwsers to your questions:

How old is your dog? He is 7 months old and weight about 75lbs

What kinds of games do you play with him? I play catch, tug a war, belly rubs, ect.

How much and what kind of exercise does he get every day? He plays outside about 2 hours a day and on the weekends we try to get him to a dog park or something like that. Since he hasn't been listning so good when I'm around we haven't been to the park.

What kind of training has he had, and how reliable is he with it? We did his training ourselfs. He was doing great. Stopped eating his poop, stopped jumping, stopped destroying stuff, would sit, lay down and stay as requested. He even stopped comming in the kitchen when we would eat.

In the last week, he started doing all of this but only with me.

What do you do when he starts misbehaving like this? I've tried ignoring him until he calmed down then give him a bunch of attention because he was calm, but that's not working. I tried putting my hand and saying sit...that's a joke now. I even tried forgetting about my coat and boots, just get on my kneews and give him the attention right away, but nothing helps. Now my husband makes sure he is near the door when I get him and puts Pistache outside until I get my stuff off, when Pistache comes in I'm the one who greats him but that doesn't change things at all. Seconds after finishing his treat, he get's right back t were he stopped.
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Chandler

Code name:- Farmcollie
 
 
Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 7:29am PST 
It sounds like you could be hitting the "teenage years".

If this were my dog and I was *sure* he was just being a big brat and there were not any other problems (once again it is hard to tell over the internet) this is what I would do:

1. Start NILIF. He has to earn *everything* good in his life.

2. You practice obedience with the dog when he's not being a brat around the door. (From your responses, it seems like he's doing this during arrivals and leaving.)

3. Make departures or arrivals NO BIG DEAL (Yaaaaaaaaaaawn...booooooooring.) Do not pay attention to him until he's been calm for 15 minutes. I am wondering if he's learned that if he goes bananas than calms down, he'll get a cookie. So hey! Lets go crazy again and get another cookie!!! I think giving him attention "right away" may be contributing to the problem. In this case, I'd lower the intensity levels and stop the cookies.

4. Do not give him opportunity to practice this behavior when you can't "deal with it". If you have to leave, make sure he is outside, in his crate, or behind a closed door. Don't let him anywhere near the door unless you have time to work on training.

5. "Dealing with it". When you have time, I'd set him up, and make sure he has a leash trailing from his collar. Go through your leaving routine, and when he acts up, calmly escort him to a HORRIBLE PLACE OF BANISHMENT for about 5-10 minutes. This should not be his crate or anyplace you want him to be comfortable. With Chandler, I had a short leash tied to the bathroom door, FAR AWAY from any activity in the apartment. He could sit or just barely lie down, it was horribly boring, and since he wanted to be with me, it was probably one of the worst things that could happen, in his viewpoint. When banishment time is up, nonchalantly release him, wait 10 minutes while ignoring him, and try the door routine again.

I'll caution once again, this applies to brats. If there is a more serious problem, you need a professional.

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Pistache

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Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 7:41am PST 
I just called my husband and he said that the minute I was out the door, Pistache stopped everything and started "crying" watching me leave the house. Since then, he has been sleeping next to the door.

My husband is starting to guess that since I'm changing workplace friday I've been working more hours and the weather we've been having has played a role on me getting home so much later than usual and Pistache is just plainlly lonesome.

I will be working with him ALOT in the next 2 weeks and with my new job, I'll be working my "normal" hours so I'll get to be home more ofthen.
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Chandler

Code name:- Farmcollie
 
 
Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 7:44am PST 
As an addentum, I think your dog also needs to learn that mouthing or biting at people is something that is not done. However, I don't have any really good suggestions for that. Maybe somebody else will. You might also want to post your question of the behavior forum to get suggestions there.
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Chandler

Code name:- Farmcollie
 
 
Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 10:30am PST 
Sorry, didn't see your last post. Given what you say, I'd also look into ways to reduce separation anxiety.
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Bingley

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Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 11:00am PST 
I was just going to say what Chandler said. Sounds like seperation anxiety. He knows your going to leave, and not take him with him, and he's trying to prevent it, in some of what you described. Bingley's puppy trainer said that don't be surprised when they start trying to rip up your shoes, etc, that they learn that's part of you leaving them home, and they don't like that.

Without actually seeing your dogs body language through this behavior, it's hard to say if it's true agression, but it really sounds like just being a bad teenage puppy, with a big of seperation anxiety.

Also, I'm just guessing that since he's a bigger breed he's not fixed yet? (I know people usually have to wait a couple years for big breeds to be fixed, at least that's what I've read) perhaps that's part of it, too?
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Laila

A lesson in- unconditionnal- love
 
 
Barked: Wed Dec 17, '08 11:46am PST 
Read Before and After Getting your Puppy by Ian Dunbar. Your local library probably has a coly. Your dog doesn't hate you, he's just a normla adolescent and he needs exercise and training.
The book is really good at explaining it from a puppy's perspective and it's easy to read.
Good luck
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Pistache

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Barked: Thu Dec 18, '08 4:35am PST 
For the Fix questioon...he was fixed at 5 months, so that's not it.


I got home earlier last night and he was realy good and this morning we tried something else, about 2 minutes before I left, I put him out, while he was out I put my boots on and placed my coat and all the other stuff I needed next to the door, when he came back in, I pretended that nothing had changed from before he went out (ignored the situation) and when it was time to leave, he was sitting in the basement couch with my hubby (the only furniture he is allowed on). It went great.
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