|Barked: Wed Apr 24, '13 11:55am PST |
|I wasn’t quite sure where to put this so I’ll start here and if the mods need to move it, they can.
I’ve seen several posts recently about people who shouldn’t own dogs and I have my best friend to add to that list. I’m very frustrated with her so this is probably going to start as a rant, but ultimately I need to decide if I should try to take this dog in or not. So I’m looking for advice too.
A few years ago, my friend adopted a puppy from the shelter. She said it was for her boyfriend who lives with her. I was quite frankly shocked when she told me because she’s never been an animal person herself. She doesn’t hate them and she thinks they’re cute, but in the 10 years I’d known her, she’d never had any inclination to share her home with one. So this came out of the blue. And knowing her and her boyfriend, I immediately worried that the dog wouldn’t be cared for properly.
A few weeks after she adopted him, she called me in a panic wanting to know what to do because he was sick. She said he was vomiting and had diarrhea and also was lethargic and had stopped eating. I told her to take him to the vet. She didn’t have a vet! She brought home a puppy from the shelter and didn’t take it to get checked out by a vet. That’s the first thing any responsible owner would do with a new dog. So I recommended my vet. She called me back the next day and said my vet was a rip-off. He believed it might be parvo and she wouldn’t pay for the test to confirm it. My vet tried to explain to her that if it was parvo it was very serious and would be miserable way for a dog to die. But she brought her dog home and said he was just lying on his blanket, looking depressed and not eating anything. I was so mad I hung up the phone and didn’t talk to her for several days. I was sure her dog wasn’t going to make it.
A couple days later, she tells me he’s snapped out of it, that he’s been eating cheetos that they offered him and is acting better. She said she didn’t need the vet after all and vets are a waste of money and she’ll never trust one again. I told her she was just lucky this time. She followed that up by sending me pictures of him in his brand new sweaters. She can’t pay for a parvo test but she can go buy him a bunch of clothes. Grrr….
So anyway, I knew this situation would not end well for her dog so I distanced myself so I didn’t have to watch things go downhill. I haven’t been over to her house since she got the puppy so that I wouldn’t have to see him and get attached.
Then today, she asks me if I want a dog. She says she has to get rid of him because she can’t take care of him anymore. Her boyfriend is in jail for drugs and she’s got 4 kids plus his 1 kid to look after. Her heat/hot water has been turned off and she’s having to heat the kids’ bath water on the stove. She’s struggling financially and apparently can’t afford to feed the dog anymore because she said animal control came by and left a note that the dog was underweight and needed vaccinations. So I guess she’s also leaving him outside when she’s not home, but I know he’s mostly an indoor dog. I told her I couldn’t take him right now and she said she’s calling animal control to pick him up today.
So I’m trying to decide if I should pick him up from the shelter once he’s been processed. I couldn’t just take him today. I have to talk it over with my husband anyway, and I’m worried that it will put Capone under a lot of stress. Her dog is a small terrier, maybe a JRT mix (?). I believe he’s high energy which I am not. He is a good size for my family and would be smaller than Capone, I think. But Capone’s just not crazy about other dogs. He’ll tolerate them but he’s never had much interest in them. And Capone is a senior and very velcro. If I have to spend a lot of time and energy focusing on the new dog to get him acclimated and fix any problems my friend may have caused, I know Capone will get depressed and I don’t want it to negatively affect his health.
IF (big if) I do decide to take him, I would prefer to adopt him from the shelter unbeknownst to my friend. She can be a drama queen and I can see her boyfriend getting home from jail in a year or so and wanting his dog back. If they know I have him, they could easily expect me to just hand him over and I won’t do that. If I take him, it’ll be permanent. And adopting him from the shelter, I’ll have the papers to prove that he’s mine, along with vet records, city licenses, etc in case there is any drama.
What do you think I should do? I stayed far away from this situation so that I wouldn’t get upset if something happened to him, but I can’t help it. I want to cry for him. I want to take him but I just don’t think he’d be a good fit for my lifestyle or for Capone. Will a small, relatively young terrier who has been relinquished by his owner likely find a good home? We don’t see a lot of small dogs in our shelters so I’m hoping that means he’ll have a good chance???
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