|Barked: Mon Dec 10, '12 5:57pm PST |
|"You should really be looking at this from the perspective of, "At this breed's worst, can I handle it?" Rather then, "Maybe if I look hard enough I'll find the perfect dalmation that fits me."
Words cannot express how much I endorse this sort of logic, and wish people would get that more.
When considering a breed, ANY breed, you need to look to see what they CAN be, where they CAN go, and decide if you are up to handling that and/or if it fits within your life. It took me ten years to decide that I ready for a Giant Schnauzer. I still don't have my Irish Setter, for while I know there isn't much I can't handle at this stage with all my mentorship, decades of training exposure and experience and a willingness to totally dedicate myself, I cannot responsibly take that breed on until I either have or have access to land. I can't really humor myself that I could go on multiple long walks a day (which I can and do), have a quarter acre fenced yard, and will be sure once a week to letting him run free in a larger space. I am realistic as to what that breed was meant to do and until I get my lifestyle closer to that root, may fall short of my dog, and that isn't fair. He may suffer problems, none that I couldn't handle in a training and management expertise sense, but on sheer access and environment.
In terms of the OP, I think you need to wait until you are on your own. The dynamics of your family not entirely behind this choice can lead to conflict. Then you can get what you want at a time when you are in full control of your new Dal optimally. That may even be a practical situation....a lot of good breeders wouldn't want to place a puppy in a home where all were not in complete agreement and support.
I think you can get a great Dal. But there will be the perfect time and perfect place. Another option would be to volunteer to foster a good tempered Dal for rescue to give yourself a chance to know the breed and your family as well and see if they can get on board. That would also be a good first step in establishing a sincerity when it comes to a good mentor and a good breeder willing to work with you.
Sometimes, you need to take the longer road and be patient. Like me and my Giants. I didn't rush it. I waited for the right time and with all the planets in alignment, so to speak, and never have regretted that decision.
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