|Barked: Tue Apr 10, '12 4:07pm PST |
|I'll go ahead and admit that there were times when Ava was growing up and I was realizing that she'd never be the dog I wanted, that I regretted getting her, but I could never give her up.
She's a wonderful girl for who she is. No, she'll never be interested in catching a frisbee, nor will she ever herd sheep or fly through an agility course... but she is an amazing girl all the same. Why just today on the last half of our walk--we started out off-leash in the woods and walked a loop that takes us back out to the community where I leashed them up again--I let Ava "carry" her own leash by draping it over her back. She knows to walk on the sidewalk, and to wait for me to give the word before she crosses the street, so I just let her walk herself while I walked Nix on his leash (because he would run in the street. The dummy.)
It's not the first time I've let Ava walk herself home either. It's awesome. Even though she's not my ideal dog, she's perfect, and the regrets I used to have about getting her are long gone by now. I've learned to accept her for the dog she is, and I wouldn't trade her for anything.
Still though, I understand people who have regrets about the dog they got. Even if it is for a lame reason like "didn't research the breed." It's really too bad they didn't, yes, but now they've ended up with a dog they can't handle. There's people who care enough to try to make it work out anyways, but if it's not going to work out then it's better to rehome the dog with someone who's better equipped to deal with that, than it would be to keep it and be miserable, because a miserable owner makes a miserable dog.
The rescue I adopted Ava from, and then later volunteered at, adopted out a fear-aggressive dog to my neighbor... without telling her all there was to know about him. She's a very sweet lady, but she's NOT a person who can handle a dog with those kinds of issues. Still, she loved him and tried to work with him to the best of her abilities, but I could tell from watching her walk him every day that he was wearing on her and she was probably regretting the impulse-adoption. When he bit her Grandchild in the face she returned him. I was pretty upset and disheartened that the rescue--the people who failed to find the right match for this lady and instead urged her to impulse-adopt this cute-but-very-fearful mutt--were now bad-mouthing her on their Facebook page and saying how people like that are scum and have no business owning dogs. It's not true. Like I said, my neighbor is really sweet, and she'd make a great home to the right dog, but unfortunately not every dog is right for every person, and I'm firm in my belief that she did the right thing by returning him--it was never going to work out for that particular case. In some cases it's ok to regret the getting dog you got, and to give him back. It can be the very best thing for the dog too.
(note: the fearful dog is still around, but he hasn't been adopted yet and from the looks of it they say nothing about his fear problems on his bio page... Just setting up the next adopters for another disaster. Needless to say I'm very disappointed in that rescue... :/
Edited by author Tue Apr 10, '12 4:28pm PST
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