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Getting Ready to say Goodbye

A Wake Up Call From The Vet

October 20th 2009 12:58 am
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I called the vet today to find out what we should do if something happened with Abby at night or on the weekend. The vet called back later to give us her cell phone number and also to give us a prescription for a sedative, if we couldn't reach her. She said that with Abby's cancer, six months after diagnosis was the maximum that she had ever seen because the cancer spreads so rapidly. (Abby is now 8 months past the diagnosis). The vet also said that the constant licking means that Abby is definitely in pain. That's what is so hard for me to understand. When Abby and our cat Spunky would play together, Spunky used to bat Abby on her nose and sometimes nicked her with a claw. Abby would squeal a bit. That to me was pain being expressed. Now, there is no sound. How can that mean she is in pain? The vet suggested very gently to us that we decide on a date and give her 48 hours notice. She also said that Abby's appetite probably would never go away because of her Cushings disease. I have been thinking that the appetite meant she was still OK. I haven't seen Abby tell me that it's time yet. Is she staying on because she knows we don't want to let her go? Just One More Day.


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Barked by: Wyoming 6/21/99-3/6/11 (Dogster Member)

October 20th 2009 at 5:53 am

Our hearts go out to you.... One of the hardest things is to know when it is time. You know Abby better than anybody and if you are still having doubts than perhaps this is not the day. You WILL know in your heart when she is ready to go. Until then enjoy each precious day. I was told Wyoming would only have six months at best and that was two years ago in May. Never underestimate the will our pups have. The vets only give you time frames based off past experience but each pup has his or her own plan. We will keep you in our hearts and prayers.
Barked by: Wendy G

October 20th 2009 at 6:20 am

Oh my gudness, sweet Abby. Finkin' 'bout yu wif wotza wuv an' pwayers ((((hugs))))
Barked by: Autumn- Our Angel (Dogster Member)

October 20th 2009 at 10:42 am

My family and I are praying for you and your family. My Mom is crying so hard ,her heart breaks for you. Perhaps the vet could give Precious Abby something a little stronger for the pain. The decision you face will most likely be one of the hardest of your life. Please know that we are here for you.Treasure every second you have with Abby,each one is a gift.
Love,comfort and peace, Autumn & Mom
Barked by: Roxxie (Dogster Member)

October 20th 2009 at 1:18 pm

I continue to pray for you and Abby. I how how terribly difficult this is for you. Abby is licking her paws because she is distressed...this is a common response to chronic pain. When your cat caught Abby on her nose, Abby yelped because the momentary pain was sudden, unexpected, and acute. That is the essential difference between the two pain responses.

Although your vet is giving you what she feels is sound advice, only you know Abby best. Perhaps what is typical in these cases does not apply to Abby at all. Each of our precious friends is unique, as is each situation. Although it may be true that Abby will always have an appetite because of the Cushing's, she can still show you her strength in other ways.

I know in your heart you don't want Abby to suffer. What is Abby showing you? Is she still walking outside by herself? Is she still sleeping comfortably and waking with some energy? Is she still playing at all? If Abby is enjoying some semblance of the life she lived before she was diagnosed, then maybe it isn't her time yet.

Trust will know. If perhaps one morning she doesn't want to get up to greet you, if maybe she cannot go outside or starts having accidents in the house, or if all she wants to do is lie in her bed and not show any interest in anything...then you will know.

Abby WILL tell you...just listen with your heart and soul. You have been so compassionate, sensitive, caring, and loving to belive me when I tell you that you will know.

My heart is breaking for you. Just love Abby, and she will show you what you need to know.
Barked by: Simon 06/01/93- 08/28/09 (Dogster Member)

October 21st 2009 at 3:45 pm

I know exactly what you are going through. Its only been two months since I lost Simon, but the memory is still so new. Just today I was thinking of him and starting bawling at work! The stage that you are in right now is the worst. Not knowing. Taking each day by day. In the end with Simon, I had to let him go when he could no longer walk. I would go home in the middle of the day and he would be in the same spot. He never "let me know" when he was ready as it seems you hear that from a lot of people, so I had to finally make the decision. Its a no win decision.
So, she may or may not tell you. Good luck
to you!

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